"Actions speak louder than words" and this is the problem that the majority of society are faced with. They are not walking the walk, but they are talking the talk. It is very easy to know what to do in any situation, but to actually do it will cost you a lot. And the biggest cost you will face is the fear of failure. Fear will always stop a person from taking action.
Are you in the group of people who think nothing will change, because you have always done things one way? If you are not prepared to take action and change, then why should tomorrow be any different than today?Kick the TV Habit: A Simple Program for Changing Your Family's Television Viewing and (more)
If you want things to be different in your life then there is no point in doing things the same way as you always have, because you will always get the same results. To get a different result you will need to try a different approach. You need to move from your comfort zone.
This is where the problems start because people normally allow their fears to dominate their thinking. If the thought of making huge changes with your life terrifies you then take small baby steps. Take one step at a time. Keep taking those steps and see what happens. Yes, it can be a fearful thing to try and take these steps, but if you are prepared to do that you will have the adventure of the lifetime you are craving.
You need to reconsider how you allow fear to dominate your mind. You then need to take some action to put that fear to death. You need to find something else which will replace that fear, you need to see that fear in most cases is destructive. Fear isn't healthy, and yet the majority of people live their lives in fear of something.Stop Calling Him Honey and Start Having Sex: How Changing Your Everyday Habits Will Make You Hot for Each Other All Over Again
Do you know what it is you need to see changed in your life? If you can't answer that question with a yes then you will be unable to make any changes needed.
You can look in the mirror and see a problem but until you can say, "I need to change the way I look" then it will continue and continue. Think of someone with an addiction, they can be told time and time again that they need to change, but until they see the problem themselves and make that decision, nothing happens.
Isolate the problem, and then admit you need help to see that problem disappeared from your life.
We all have habits and it is these bad habits which will limit our lives. These bad habits need to be changed with good habits. As you start to isolate what the bad habits are you can then make the positive changes to create good habits. Habits take 21 days to form, which means you will need to do some work to see your life changed.
The first thing we really do need to do, is find out is why we have certain habits. At some stage in our lives we made a decision, and we have tended to stay with that decision because it is in our comfort zone. We just need to take a few moments, to analyze our lives and see what we are doing with them. We might be very successful but there are always decisions that will hinder our progress from moving forward.
Even little changes can be scary for some people, and this is why you really do need to analyze your life. It can be something as simple as a food product you always buy. We know someone who over-reacted because the store was out of a brand they always used. It wasn't a big deal and once they thought about it, they could laugh at what had happened. Why did they react the way they did? It was simple for over 30 years they had every week bought that product, same brand; week; after week; after week. Was it a problem to buy another brand? No, except for that moment, no other brand could possibly be as good. Without making a change they would never know if any other brand was a better product.
Do you see how even little things can hold us back from doing and enjoying many experiences?
Let's start to look at one habit that a lot of people need to change and that is overeating. There are many reasons why people overeat but again it will take time to see the changes take place. There is no way you will wake up one morning having thought about losing weight to find all the excess weight has all disappeared. Weight loss will never, ever happen while a person thinks about it. Weight loss will only happen when a person does something about it.
But fear will also be a big factor as to why people do not keep off their weight loss. They might see some incredible results but all too soon the weight starts to pile back on, and people are back in a worse state than they were before.Changing Yourself: A Revolutionary Method of Overcoming Your Smoking Habits and Moving Your Life Positively Forward
Much of the problems seen with losing weight come back to a person's thinking. Something in their mind will always stop them losing and keeping the weight off. Their thinking will always end up sabotaging any success they have had until they decide to take action and see what problems they are trying to avoid.
If you know someone who is overweight, have you ever listened to them before they embark on a new diet program? They will tell you all the positive advantages of this particular program and then find a whole load of negatives as to why the program won't work for them.
The negatives always come back to what has happened in the past. They have never been able to lose more than a few pounds on a diet before. They will tell you the longest they have kept off any weight are a couple of months, and then the weight returned and even more weight was found.
If they were to be honest you would see there are underlying problems to them not wanting to lose weight. That's correct; they don't want to lose weight. They might think they want to lose weight but their fear is greater than any desire they might have.
They would rarely admit to it but the biggest fear dieters have is the reaction of other people. The other people might become jealous of them, because they look better than they do. They might be concerned that someone who has lost weight might steal their partner from them. People often are jealous of dieters because it shows how self disciplined they are.
But the dieter might be fearful of the attention they are getting. They have got used to the stares and comments made about their size, but to have the positive attention is harder to deal with. Also if they lose weight they often fear becoming more attractive to the opposite sex. This is a huge barrier to some, because they have used their weight as a means of avoiding any sexual contact.
People will often focus on their fears. They will listen to a news bulleting and immediately fear grips them making them avoid certain situations. If you listen to a news bulletin then you will hear when a person is killed by a shark attack. Now it is important that people are made aware of the dangers, but this isn't the biggest killer that people should be reacting to.
Over 2.5 million people in America died of heart disease. Death in a car accident was around 44,000 people and over 17,000 people were murdered and 1 death from a shark attack in the same year.LIFE AND HABIT
Now the fears that rise are almost minimal for those who are eating themselves to an early grave. People allow their emotions to counteract the truth in this situation. They allow their enjoyment to get the better of them because they think it won't happen to them.
Yet if people actually listened to the news they would see that many people who die of heart disease didn't have to. A change in their diet or eating habits would have saved their lives. This is one case where the fear of what might happen to them if they were slim outweighed any fear of death and death was the victor in many cases.
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